I LOVE MONDAYS Tip of the Week
If you’re like most working moms, you feel fantastic and energized after getting together with a close friend. Probably you ask yourself afterwards, “Why don’t I do this more happen? It feels so good hanging out with her!” But it’s hard to sustain the vision because we then get bogged down once again with work deadlines, our child's class graduation, summer-camp scheduling, and on and on. Before we know it, it’s been weeks since we’ve seen a close friend.
Or does this sound familiar: you're on the phone with a friend who you haven’t seen in a while. After doing your best to catch-up while dealing with numerous life interruptions, you throw in “Hey, we should really get together.” And you mean it, but you also kind of know that’s not going to lead to an actual get-together. Before you hang up, suggest to your friend that you pick your next outing right then and mark it IN RED on your calendar.
Once you have a date, go. Make it happen. Do not call it off or otherwise renege because you’re stressed out, unmotivated, overworked (it will still be there tomorrow!) or are feeling the urge to zone out in front of the television, if given the chance. Treat your friend date as seriously as you would your monthly staff meeting or your child’s doctor’s appointment—attendance mandatory. Afterward, take stock of how rejuvenating it felt to be with a supportive friend, whether you initially felt tired, stressed, or not. Be mindful of how it improved your overall well-being, and remember this the next time you’re toying with the idea of bagging out. Once you get into the rhythm, you’ll never look back.
I like what Ann Pietrangelo, a regular contributor on health issues for the site care2.com, has to say: “We all need to feel part of something meaningful, and we owe it to ourselves to make an effort to connect and reconnect with our fellow human beings. Our health and well-being depends on it.”
So go ahead and pick up that phone today...and nail down a date!
I am a journalist, filmmaker, author, wife, and mom to an 8-year-old daughter. My most recent project is I Love Mondays: And other confessions from devoted working moms. Other projects explore raising only children, happily ever after, raising strong girls, and hot topics for Jewish women.
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