Last Friday, I had the privilege of teaching breakout sessions at the Worcester Women's Leadership Conference. Part of what made the day so inspiring and educational for me was a lunchtime panel about the pragmatics of girls and women getting ahead in the work world, a la Lean In.
Mamas, here is one simple thing we can do for our girls, right now, whatever age they are: Teach your daughter that when someone compliments her, the answer, the ONLY answer is:
As Victoria Budson, Executive Director at the Women's Public Policy Program from the Harvard Kennedy School, taught me during that panel, if you tell a supervisor that your team did all the excellent work (and not you), he/she will believe you. Another option: one can also say, "Thank you for recognizing that I led my amazing team to meet the goal." See? You can own a compliment and still be generous.