I Love Mondays Tip of the Week
I know, I know,"chillax" is so totally 2003. It's right there with "holla" and "shizzle," but we all need a little goofiness to kick off a work week...
Okay, one of the biggest challenges in juggling family and work thoughts that run amok, moms have told me repeatedly during interviews, is the daily transitions. It’s those in-between moments when you’re not at work or at home (a.k.a. “mommy limbo”), such as when you’re in the car driving home from the office, taking the train into work, or coming home from a business trip. It’s often hard being in this in-between space, with our minds racing all over the place. You’re wondering why your son had a meltdown over waffles while you were trying to prepare for your next meeting; or you keep reliving the horror of firing an employee before you get home (knowing your child is expecting your full attention).
Commute time doesn’t have to be treacherous though. Why not make the intentional choice to use the commute as an opportunity to unwind? Says Kathy Caprino, M.A., career and executive coach and Founder and President of Ellia Communications: “The anxiety and worry that overflows from one domain to another (work to home, and vice-versa) during commute time depletes your energy, your health, and your well-being, because it interferes with your ability to be your highest and best in each situation. It creates a vicious cycle that reinforces that you’re not your best in either arena. In the end, you begin to feel you’re letting down everyone who matters most.”
Try this: Spend the commute time doing things that bring you more peace, relaxation, focus, and well-being, Caprino suggests, such as sleeping, journaling (write about the key things you’ve learned or great stuff from that day you’d like to document) or reading something engaging but non–work-related if you’re on a train or bus. If you’re driving, listen to calming, soothing music, or uplifting, motivational audio books that excite you.
I am a journalist, filmmaker, author, wife, and mom to an 8-year-old daughter. My most recent project is I Love Mondays: And other confessions from devoted working moms. Other projects explore raising only children, happily ever after, raising strong girls, and hot topics for Jewish women.
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